Ive not done much of any sightseeing while here because I am waiting til Ty is here. However, I did go to the national cathedral, today. I'll admit, I was disappointed.
It was so painfully cold on the way in, then when we got in, we realised there was a special service going on because it was MLK Day. I was more than happy to not go in, especially because the told me not to take a pic of the arches in the doorway, despite the fact that everyone else was taking pics.
They sat us down and we got to watch this terrible gospel-esque choir sing burning songs to poor quality background music of electric guitars. It was very much not my style. I was bored quickly and didn't want to sit through an MLK/church service. Luckily, Michelle suggested she and I go look at stuff, since we didn't know how long eis would nap. I did know she would be pretty hungry soon after waking and I didn't want her screaming in the church.
We went to the top floor and looked around and bran and east met us up there, then we went down to the crypt, though everything was closed for the MLK thing going on, which sucked cause I wanted to see the crypt. We took some pics of eis and I nursed her, though it didn't go well cause stupidly had some peanut butter at 0900 when I ate breakfast. Note to self: eis still hates when you eat peanut butter -- stop forgetting!
We took some pics outside, then left for some other place near water with lots of restaurants. It was about three miles past the house, which was nice because it took forever to get through downtown after leaving the cathedral. The boys went home because they were in brans car because we dont fit in the truck with the carseat. Michelle, Tim, and I went to dinner and some American grill. It was like $14 for a burger! It was nuts. The area was pretty and I would have liked to walk around if it werent freezing.
We headed home and eis got terrible gas cramps as soon as we started driving, plus she was sleepy and hungry. Michelle burped her when we got home, then I nursed her and gave her to Michelle for tummy time.
Eis rolled over all by herself four times tonight! So today is the official date for rolling over. Then she fed her cereal and kept her up for about an hour longer than necessary, then gave her a bath. Then she gave her to Tim for him to read a story. He took her into their room and shut the door, which I don't like, but I let it go because it's the last night. I had Michelle tell him to keep reading til I got out of the shower and not do anything else. He said ok.
I showered and when I get out, I hear her shrieking from downstairs. I threw on my clothes and went to see what was going on because she is on a schedule for a reason. Bath signals the end of the day and that it's time to wind down. We then read a story with someone, then we read a story while eis is in the crib and she goes to sleep. Changes to that routine effect how she goes to sleep and how she sleeps. There's a difference to nap sleep and sleep sleep. If I have to have someone hold her so I can do something at night, they have to come to the nursery and keep the lights low and use quiet voices and can only read or sing. They cant talk to her or play with her because she thrives on consistency, as do all babies. P,us, it jacks up my night and then I become a real bitch cause I'm even more tired.
Anyway, I came downstairs and she was being passed around with full voices and bright lights and taking pics with everyone. I said to Tim, "I asked you to read til I got out of the shower." he said, "I read, then I finished the book, so I brought her down here." it was at that moment when the knot in my back seized up and I took her to bed.
I realise they were taking pics of eis with the boys, but as far as I am concerned, my wishes were ignored and I was not asked. I could have agreed, with stipulations, if asked. I have been here all week and the boys made an effort to be around as little as possible. Pictures could and should have been taken at any other time. However, I come off as looking like the bad guy because I don't want eisley all messed up and sleeping crap.
I know I am going to have to lay down the law with tim, which is hard because I don't know if he genuinely believes the things he says or if he's trying to be funny. I don't find them funny because they're usually insults, demeaning, or conceited and those are tough concepts with which to joke. I know sarcasm and they don't have the intonation or undertone of sarcasm. Writing this, I think I see why we would butt heads if I opened my mouth; I find him fairly offensive. I am offended when he doesn't think of others as he thinks of himself. And I don't know if she means to, but Michelle speaks primarily of tims flaws and negligences and it doesn't endear me to him.
I do know that, in his own way, he cares. But it doesn't show in many of his words, attitudes, or actions. However, it is because of this that I know I will have to let him know that he can be in charge, without question, with Michelle and east, but I am in charge when it comes to eisley and I am not to be challenged. I am polite, which is not to be mistaken for apathy, stupidity, or weakness, but I will do what I believe is right for my baby and require the same from those who love her. I don't know if anyone ever really "stands up" to Tim, but I plan on talking to him exactly howi would talk to my parents and letting him know that. I am not sure whether he will say he will do what he wants, which he has when I have been polite and less direct, or if he will see that I am dead serious and acquiesce.
I will let you know how it goes, my sweet Russian (German, Ukrainian, Latvian, and American) readers,
P.S. I have stereotyped that Russians are good at chess, hockey/skating, and ballet. What else am I missing? What about my other readers, for what are your countries known??
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